There are many things that could be said about love, but there is one thing that seldom gets mentioned—love hurts. When we care deeply for another person we want what’s best for them and it hurts when we see them without it. This is especially true when it comes to their salvation. Our longing to see them saved is as a heavy burden. We can hardly bare the thought of thinking about their unsaved condition. And that ought to motivate us to witness to them and pray for them. But, as Christians we must be careful that our desire doesn’t lead to despair. While we should long greatly for our loved ones to be saved, we must not believe the devil’s lie that they never will. Our confidence in God ought to be greater than that. We need the same kind of attitude that J. C. Ryle had when he wrote these words—perhaps this will give you a different perspective:
“I never despair of anyone becoming a decided Christian, whatever he may have been in days gone by. I know how great the change is from death to life; I know the mountains of division which seem to stand between some men and heaven; I know the hardness, the prejudices, the desperate sinfulness of the natural heart.
But I remember that God the Father made the glorious world out of nothing. I remember that the voice of the Lord Jesus could reach Lazarus when, four days dead, and recall him even from the grave. I remember the amazing victories the Spirit of God has won in every nation under heaven. I remember all this—and feel that I never need despair.
The arm of the Spirit is not shortened! His power is not decayed! He is like the Lord Jesus—the same yesterday, today, and forever. He is still doing wonders, and will do to the very end. I shall not be surprised to hear, even in this life, that the hardest man I know has become softened, and the proudest has taken his place at the feet of Jesus as a weaned child. I shall not be surprised to meet many on the right hand in the day of judgment, whom I shall leave, when I die, traveling in the broad way.
I never despair, because I believe in the power of the Holy Spirit.” Think about it!