I’ve often wondered, “Where did the drop-outs go?”. A pastor can’t help but wonder. Did I do something to run them off? Did they leave because of a doctrinal difference? Was it a personality clash with me or others? Did someone mistreat them? Were they simply overcome by discouragement? Were they conquered by some sin?
And the questions just keep coming. Where are they now? What are they doing? Do they plan to come back? These are all interesting questions, but sadly in most cases we never get an answer. When someone is so rude as to leave without a word of explanation it’s rare that you ever hear from them again. I always thought it strange that people would leave a church because of some perceived fault with it, and yet see nothing wrong with dropping out without ever speaking to the pastor. That tells me that they have a character problem. Most people wouldn’t quit their job without a formal resignation, yet they treat the Lord’s church like trash. So in all likelihood, whatever the reason for leaving it is more about their faults than the church’s fault.
So when you see someone drop-out in such a manner it is a sign that they are in need of our prayers. The church would gladly receive them back with open arms and no questions asked, but without prayer it is doubtful that they will ever get the opportunity. It is likely that these people will spend the rest of their lives running from their problems rather than resolving them. That’s not only an awful way to live, it is a terrible testimony for anyone claiming to be a child of God. If you are one of those drop-outs I hope you will reconsider your actions and seek a resolution to your problem, and reconciliation with the church. If you have been embarrassed by your conduct please don’t let your pride keep you from doing what’s right.
Chances are your “problem” was with a particular member or a single issue that upset you, that could easily be resolved if you would just make an effort. That’s something you are obligated to do. If the issue is of such major importance that it warrants leaving the church, at least do it in a dignified way. Make an appointment with the pastor and tell him your story. If you fail to handle your problem in a Christian manner you are going to go from one problem to another–perhaps a lot worse. It pays to do the things the right way. Think about it.
